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assalamualaikum

here i am, doing the second entry for today after visiting one of my friend's, nik's blog.

her entry struck me. long distance relationship?

well, if you ask me, yes. i had been through a long relationship and to tell you the truth,

it wasn't easy at first. i was 12 and he was 14. he was my friend's cousin,

let say my friend is Q and he is H. he was sent to Egypt to study there at 14 years old
the reason was remain a secret until today. he was on his semester leave, that's when i saw him.

it didn't take along until we started calling lovey name. then, a few weeks later, he had to fly 

back. imagine, Egypt and Malaysia. miles and miles away. so we promised to keep in touch. 

we started SMSing but it cost a fortune because it was expensive so we email each other.

email after email, chatting after chatting. he had other obligates like studying and i have too.

days past by and it was hard not to talk to your love ones. i decided to change my email

because my last one expired. i did inform him about the change but he didn't reply my emails

after that. sad? of course. angry? yes. but i look on the bright sight of things.

he is so far away and it gets harder everyday. if he is able to get through a day without me, 

why can't i? i decided to stop trying to find him and move on. guess what? i felt okay and

didn't regret about my actions till today.

then, i was in a very short distance relationship because he lived nearby my house.

and it didn't work out as well. 

my conclusion is, it doesn't matter whether it is short distance or long.

semua sama je. ada orang yg bercinta berpisah beribu batu okay je, ni kan pula

yang dekatdekat. the important thing is to have trust.So take these relationships easy, 

and learn to enjoy the person and their quirks and then start trusting them. 

There is NO time frame, but be open to trust them, with the possibility that 

your heart might be broken. if the guy/girl is not trust able, then they are better off

without you because you deserve someone better ;)

second, is to always bertanya khabar. don't make it a point that you're so far away

and busy that you don't have time to text at all. hey, manage your time well. have a

time for you to study and dealing assignments and a time to text and say i love you

to your love ones. it isn't that hard. Allah gave you 24 hours per day. by doing this, 

your partner feels you didn't neglected him or her. don't get me wrong yg selalu 

bertanya khabar tapi jangan selalu sangat sampai tak study langsung. take a day of

the week, maybe sabtu malam for you guys to talk about your week jadi si dia

is well informed about everything.

thirdly, ingat special dates macam anniversary and birthdays. show to him/her even if

you are busy with assignments and whatnot, you still remember the little details in your

relationship. kalau nak even better, hantar hadiah guna pos laju ke * cadangan *

or call him/her and sing happy birthday song ke or anything okay? mesti suka punya

 fourth, keep your partner posted on everything. tell him/her about your timetable,

bila habis kelas or bila exam or apaapa je. this is helpful so that he/she will know when is a

good time for him/her to text you, jadi tak menggangu lah :) then, you tell him/her about

your environment there or send some pictures. make him/her feel apart of it.

fifth, send some pictures of you to make his/her day. sometimes, bosan juga

dengar suara je. sekarang dah high tech beb. hantar gambar lah. * bukan yg tak

baik punya la * sebagai pengubat rindu :)haaaaaaa

one tip, bila beli laptop, beli yang dah install webcam. bole skype 

dengan si dia. bijak :) or like me, 3G on the phone. simple kan these days?

so sekalian, tak kiralah long ke short distance relationship, semua ada

cabaran. cabaran tulah yang mematangkan kita. kita kena belajar jauh sikit

dengan si dia sebab banyak lagi yang kita kena buat. belajar, kerja.

takkan nak berlekat 24jam kan? kahwin lah kalau macam tu.

kalau orang tu sayangkan kita, dia akan tunggu dengan setianya.

kalau orang tu cintakan kita,dia takkan buat benda yang boleh menyakitkan hati kita.

kalau orang tu rindukan kita, dia takkan cari orang lain sebagai pengubat rindu.

kalau orang tu nakkan kita, dia takkan buat benda bodoh untuk merosakkan hubungan.

kalau dia buat yang opposite dari yang atas, lantak. dia rugi sebab dia dah lepaskan

orang yang baik, cantik, yang betul sayangkan dia macam anda yang membaca :)

do you want to get married to a guy or girl who does those stupid stuff to you?

mesti tak!

kesimpulannya, kalau dia buat yang tak sepatutnya, takpe. 

look on the bright side. you can find another who loves you better than he/she does once

loved you.

kalau ada yang tak setuju, co comment ye :)